Oftentimes the only thing more difficult about getting a divorce is telling your children about it. Breaking the news to children can be emotionally overwhelming – both for you and them. In this blog, our St. Louis divorce attorney shares several tips to consider when telling your child about divorce:
Don’t Create a House Divided
Oftentimes a parent will tell the oldest child about the divorce first before telling the younger children. It’s best if you gather everyone and tell them all at once. Avoid swearing any of your children to secrecy – carrying that kind of burden is extremely hard on children, especially with news they might find devastating.
Think like a Child
For a moment, put yourself in the shoes of your child. For children who are especially young, their minds have not fully matured and they are not able to process the news the same way an older child might. When thinking of what to say, ask yourself how you would want to be told if you were that age.
When talking about the divorce, you can be honest with your children without being critical of your other spouse. This can be difficult, especially if the marriage is ending due to infidelity, but the last thing you want to do is make your child feel as to there are sides that need to be chosen.
Be as open and honest with your children during this process. If you can’t promise that everything will stay the same, then don’t promise it. Undoubtedly, there will be changes in everyone’s lives after the divorce is finalized. Discussing these changes now rather than when they’re unfolding will help your children understand the reality of the situation. Assure them that as a family, you will get through this together.
If you’re considering filing for divorce, call our dedicated St.
attorney from Kallen Law Firm at (314) 441-7793 to request a free consultation.